Wednesday, November 13, 2019

November's menu


Let me say that I never in a million years thought I'd live off of lists to organize my life. I followed this facebook page that stated that making lists are a waste of time. To that I fully disagree b/c my life runs on lists. Cleaning lists, shopping lists, to do lists, to call lists and what to cook lists. Like all things - it takes a moment to create, to put into place and to get used to using. I'm not prefect but if I can grab an extra 20 min to spend with my kids or kick back and relax.. it's thanks to a list I followed.

I started creating a menu for everyday of the week.I got tired of buying food we didn't use and staring at the frig at 5pm trying to figure out what to make for dinner.  It has made my grocery list and my days so much easier. So I decided to share the 9 days I've done so far.. and some future ones if you'd like to follow along. All of the recipes, majority, are on my pinterest page under "food".. but I'll link them in for ya.

4th - Crispy Chicken Cobb Salad
5th - Tacos
6th - Steak & Veggies
7th - Pot Roast
8th - Frozen pizza
9th - Pioneer Women's Pot Roast
10th - Chicken & Bacon Pasta 
11th - Spaghetti & Meatballs
12th - Frozen meal
13th - Creamy Shrimp & Mushroom Pasta
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14th - Steak & Veggies
15th - Frozen Pizza
16th - Skinny Fajita Soup
17th - Frozen meal
18th - Insta Pot Tuscan Chicken Pot
19th - Chicken Ceaser Salad
20th - Chicken Avocado Burrito
21st - Hamburger Beef Stew
22nd - Frozen Pizza
23rd  - Crock Pot Been & Broccoli
24th - Hamburgers

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I did the whole month up until Dec 4th.. but I'll leave this until after the 18th and I'll add the next months' worth. We do pizza Friday's because my son got approved for his new therapy so it's a long day. I also included Frozen meals.. which could also be 'left over' days .. but we buy already pre-made meals that you either stick in the oven or warm it up in a fryer pan. If we skip a day b/c we end up eating out then we do that day the next day and it all just slides over.

Try it out.. let me know what you think! Try a recipe? Let me know how you liked it! Have a fav? Share it with me so I can add it to my menu...


Thursday, November 7, 2019

Life n Music

My world can seem so crowded with negativity and surrounded by even more tasks and voices. There are days I just need a music day. Ya know the kind.. where you plug your music in and just let it all out. The thoughtful songs, the teary ones, the happy dance around the house ones.. the music that speaks to you. I have been doing this quite often recently I love a house filled with music so I turn on the music channel and listen while I do my chores. It makes me so happy and carefree and sometimes I find a new song hidden without those tunes.

If you follow me on Facebook.. then you have seen that I am sharing a song a day this month.. well until my birthday. It's because Halloween made me realize everything about what I am doing is wrong. Chasing the wrong people. Not appreciating the ones who are in my life. Filling my day with drama and negativity and just blah.. so I decided to flip the switch. These have been a great 7 days!!

I sent flowers to my sister & my best friend. I bought someone's coffee behind me a couple of days this week. All because I feel people feel so devalued.. I want to make someone smile for a moment. While at Target yesterday I was being super cheecky with the checker. She seemed so bored and blaaa .. SO I got really animated about how I only came for 4 items and walked out with 20. I stressed that only 4 items a couple of times.. then talked about how the bulls eye is hypnotic... she laughed and laughed. It seemed genuine and it made me feel really good. 

I don't really have an event planned a day.. I just pray on it until the idea comes to me.. or that voice says "buy the coffee for the person behind you". If I can't find someone outside my house then I just flood my husband with silly stuff.  Because I undervalue my husband A LOT. He's annoying and comes across like a 14 yr old boy with his xbox but I do undervalue him.

With my meal planning, house cleaning and song a day schedule I've created a bit of free time I didn't have before. I am really happy with the way this week has turned out so far. I hope I keep it going. I don't know what I'm going to do this coming week but I'm sure I need to spice it up a notch. I was actually thinking of buying 20 blankets off amazon to hand out to our homeless community. I do want to buy someone's Thanksgiving turkey .. or a couple of people... but I'm going to have to really think about those items.

We have a friend hosting a early Thanksgiving dinner this weekend & we are bringing two side dishes. I'm thinking I might pick her up some flowers since she has been a good friend. I'm sure it will come to me as I keep praying over it

In my next post I'm going to share my months menu with you guys in case someone else is interested in meal planning and because I'm super proud of myself. Most of my recipes are on my pinterest board so I'll try to add links.

Thanks for reading!!! Leave a comment below to let me know you stopped by!!


Sunday, November 3, 2019

Gobblins and Candy.

One of the worst fails in our time is forgetting your phone. I did that. I also couldn't take pictures of my adorable dressed up kids on Halloween. Thankfully someone took pitty on the situation and hooked us up with a couple. Because we all know .. if you don't post it, with pictures to prove it, it didn't happen. (insert eye roll)

Halloween wasn't this great event I thought it was going to be. Actually it was really bad for me. But I don't want to get in to that but I will say that I cried a lot that night and the next day. a lot. I was a really big breaking point for me and I'm still a little raw but I will be so much stronger moving forward .. and that's all I wanna say.

BUT we did get pictures.. from one of my brothers friends.. he sent them to my husband.

We were the Toy Story family. 
I absolutely loved my husbands costume. All my kids were super cute. I should have gone as Ms Potato Head .. but I thought the costume came with both. It came with pieces to be either Mr or Ms so I became Little Bo Peep.  I wish I had better pictures of the kids.. Little Man looked amazing as Woody. Little Dude was a awesome Buzz and My little sweet .. well she was just delicious as Jessie. 

Looking forward to getting into to November!!! I'm so ready for this years holidays.. 

I hope you all had great a Halloween!! 



Thursday, October 31, 2019

Damn, it's Halloween already?


Holy Gobblins - I can't believe today is Halloween!!

Goodness gratuitous.. tomorrow will be Christmas!! 

Nothing really exciting has happened in the past 6 weeks - Thank God! We are just trying to finish up the house remodel. Guys we still don't have base boards... like I'm about to go banana's on my husband. I know the whole vehicle thing really set us back, hes' been coming and going with work.. so that has really set us back. Plus "I" have been really fighting for my Little Man and all his therapies. So the house stuff has taken a backseat and I am going to really push for us to get back on track. Like we should be able to wrap this up by Thanksgiving.. gosh guys.. a month away!!

So we started a new Speech & OT company! We start on the 8th.. I'm excited. I fought really hard to get this approved b/c it was considered "out of network". You wouldn't believe how far our insurance was willing to make us drive for a "in network" company WHEN we have so many around us. This is the third facility that we have tried to get approved and I did!!! It's really gonna change our nice little schedule we currently have.. buy ya'll know us Momma's will do whatever it takes for our babies.

On that same rabbit hole I started to question our other therapies. I got more involved with my sons teacher and what they are doing at school. They are pushing to put him in GP schools and ya'll he isn't ready for that. Bless his heart.. he's gotta be able to speak his needs and until then .. I'm not moving him. I can't imagine the struggle of putting a non-verbal child in general schools. So we have been really woking on his IEP and passing it down through the other channels. It was brought to my attention that his ABA therapy may not be on the same page with us.
So now I am starting to research other venues and seeing if we are going to be changing that up too. It's crazy. Its' a lot of phone calls. Its' a lot of she said and she said's ... repeating what the teacher is saying and what ABA is saying. Calling this Dr and calling this therapy office but I promise it's all gonna pay off when he starts talking to us. It's just a matter of time before we figure out the right communication avenue for all of us. Ya'll he refuses.. refuses to use sign language. He's started to sing songs.. verbally!! He's started to repeat things.. like "drink" or "eat" but we aren't to the point where he will speak without prompting first BUT we are so close!!!

Other then trying to get my Little Man set up with all the help that he needs.. I have been really pushing to re-organize the house. We have been de-junking like crazy. We are almost down to bare bones in each room. We just really went through the kitchen and got a lot out. So I think we are all on the right direction to making 2020 amazing!! I also have finished up my Christmas shopping for the kids. I decided to just get it out of the way and we can possibly add on if we find something fabulous.

Well I gotta get off from here.. we have a ABA sesh in about 3 hours and then we are off to Trick or Treat!! Please let me know you stopped by and read my little ramble - by leaving a comment below! I'd love to hear from ya! I'd going to try to get on here more.. I swear.. Now that we are shifting stuff around I have a window that I can dedicate to the blog again.. yay!! Alright my little witches.. stay safe & have fun tonight!!


Monday, September 16, 2019

hell of a truckin' month.

Hello!!

Going into 2019 "Just Keep Breathin'" by Ariana Grande became my theme song.. and I swear that for my Nov birthday.. I'm getting this tattoo'd on my forearm. I never knew how much I'd be needing this song to reel me back into sanity perimeters.  This is going to be a loooooooong post.

Ok.. so why so dramatic? because..
I have never once felt unsafe in my home. I have never once felt the need for security cameras or gates. I've never once felt the need to lock my front or back door. Hell 90% of the time my front door was unlocked and the back door open for the dogs while we ran errands.. bible. I have never questioned my neighborhood - even if it is on the 'ghetto' side to some. I started leaving the keys to my van in my middle console shortly after we got it in Feb 2018. It was just easy to just 'push to start' after loading 2 or 3 kids for therapy or errands. I'd just push and go.. never had to search for keys. I also want to add that I have multiple diaper bags depending on the kids.. So if I had all 3 it would be the blue one.. if it was just the two little's I carried a little unicorn bag. I don't think I even own a purse anymore.. esp after having little dude. Anyway....


On August 15th I went to get my wallet out of the van when I realized that someone had ransacked the  van. They didn't take a thing except my keys. The moment I realized my keys were gone I froze in place. I knew. I knew it was a matter of time before they'd come back. I called the cops and filed a police report. They informed me that the 'perp' would be back for the van. We set up an appointment to have the whole system re-keyed - but they had to order the keys so it would take a week or two.

Aug 22nd: The bus for little man couldn't get down our street so the bus barn had asked if I could pick him up at the corner. They knew I had to load two other little kiddo's and they patiently waited. I ended up taking the kids to McDonald's for a happy meal and got myself a Trenta Pink drink (currently my fav Starbucks drink - yummo!) When I pulled in the drive way I noticed a sloth like figure on the screen of my kitchen window. My blood went cold. I swear.. it literally made me motionless. I got out.. checked on the dogs.. walked the house and went back for the kiddo's. I got them out, put them in their booster seats, got their food laid out and went back to take a picture. Because it's creeeeepy isn't it?? Can you not see a figure of a person?? it's so creepy..
My Mommy senses started tingling .. those little warning bells went off in high fashion. I emptied out the van of the kids favorite items. I kept some things.. like dolls. I always keep a full spare set of clothing and a toy in my van for each child. So I left that. I remember semi cleaning out the vehicle b/c my gut told me they were coming but I largely dismissed it. That evening this little voice had told me to take the car seats out of the van. I kept dismissing it. It kept getting more and more persistent. I told my husband and he laughed it off; as I had done. We agreed to take the seats out that coming weekend and clean them. After we watched Big Brother 21 that night... I asked him again. I told him my gutt was yelling at me to remove those seats. He rolled his eyes and went to bed and I shortly followed..

Aug 23rd - 4:30am.
My husband woke me up to let me know that my van was gone. The next day we were taking it for a re-key. The van was stolen with my babies car seats, spare clothing and toys in the vehicle. A $400 'sand' wagon was in the back, my daughters FAV pair of shoes I had forgotten earlier that day were gone... this list just goes on and on. The amazing part was the huge annoyance of ignoring that little voice and the personal violation I felt. I have never felt so scared, alone, confused.
Who would do this? Who wanted a HONDA ODYSSEY for heaven sakes?! My husbands drives a new Dodge Dart and they wanted a goldfish incrusted minivan?!
The headache of police reports .. ins claims.. on-star searches engulfed my day. It literally took up my whole weekend. 


We got the kids new carseats, phone chargers, a rental (pictured above), and we waited. Waited for the police to find my minivan that brought my daughter home. The van that we took our first family trip to Texas in, The van that we drove up to Washington, the van that held my daughters first year of her life. The van that i utterly hated with a passion. The van that I drove with disdain and disgust b/c I never wanted a 'minivan' but suddenly ached for.

Over the weekend my husband left for a short 'underway' and on Monday August 26th - at 1 in the morning my house phone started going off. The police department had found the van, with a driver in it, and demanded that I come pick it up. Of course I wasn't going to wake 3 sleeping babies up to go get a van. 1. It was only me. 2. how was i gonna drive 2 vehicles? So we had it impounded. BIGGEST blessing EVER! We weren't able to get the vehicle until the 27th from impound and a lady through our ins advised us to have a tow truck meet us at the impound lot. When we called to set that up they wouldn't send a tow truck b/c the van was deemed driveable.

GUYS.... this van was anything but driveable! 
First off... the van was littered with weed and other drugs.. littered. The smell was so bad it gave you a instant headache. The blue and purple you see are weed containers. The middle console was filled with them & while it may be legal to smoke weed in Cali.. it's not for a active service member. The van was littered with food & clothing. My babies car seats were gone & the only remainder were the anchors. That broke me. Shattered me. Impacted me so hard.. it still makes me emotional. 


The bumper and the fender were just handing on. The axle protruded the wheel house (as pictured), the tired had metal wires hanging from them, the back hatch was dented in & they didn't think we could even open it.
We didn't turn the van on - the impound lot drove it over to us and parked it. The impound lot owner knew it wasn't driveable but the police dept said it was.
((So.. our ins co told us that police departments will always tell you it's driveable even if it's split in half to remove any liability on their behalf. So always be prepared to have a tow truck on standby in this type of matter )) I do NOT in ANY WAY blame the police department for any damages. It's not their job to do a diagnostic and I am incredibly thankful that they assisted in finding the van.

So the ins co became intolerable after this point. They were super up to this 'very' point. They refused to send a tow truck to remove the van off impounds lot, they refused to take it to the dealership for it's diagnostic. They absolutely refused to reimburse us for the impound fee's & even said we should have found a way to keep it from even getting impounded. The van was completely undriveable. The wheels wobbled when moving. That van was so covered in drugs... I can't ...
So the impound lot graciously took the van to the collision team through our Honda dealership & the collision team was a absolute delight! The impound lot even brought the van to our home so that we can survey and take pictures of damages before the collision team received it. The tow truck driver showed me things, had me take pictures of the undercarriage, and even offered to lower the van to retrieve personal items. They were awesome. 

The collision team gave me daily updates, sent me pictures to describe damages and ask questions. He color coded areas and explained their issues. The collision co told us that the van would be totaled on August 30th. They told us that "fentanyl" had been found in the van & all personnel wore hazmat suits to enter the vehicle. The clean up charge for the drugs alone was $5,000. They said the driver(s) drove the van at a very high speed and then slammed it into park. The van drove while in park and parked while in drive. The vehicle was very confused and the whole electrical system was glitchy. They said that it seemed as though the driver(s) attempted to jump either a tree stump or a man made ramp and the axle broke upon a landing. The under carriage compartments had been compromised. The fuel systems were burned or drained.
The INS co, however, refused to return our phone calls. SO with the 'good faith' of the collision dept we started vehicle shopping over the Labor Day holiday. The ins co refused to give us information on the vehicle at all until Sept 3rd - which they provided via email~ !!  I called these people every. single. day and they responded to us via email.  We refused to purchase a vehicle until we heard from the ins co directly that the van was being totaled. 

On Sept 3rd I purchased my dream vehicle. Since we had already been shopping I already had a dealership I wanted to work with & a basic understanding of what I wanted. I was very torn between two completely different MAKES but narrowed it down to one that I have been dreaming about I got my Drivers License. I didn't get the color that I originally thought I wanted but God works in funny ways. We walked onto the Chevy lot for the 3rd time to hear that the truck I wanted had been sold. I had to start my search all over and since a lot of the inventory had been sold over the weekend it was 'slim pickings'. My husband set with the kids and let look at all the beautiful trucks. I looked at the 'customs', I looked at the LT's and I looked at the LTZ's. I did NOT want a white truck, I did want a extended crew cab & I wanted a five seater not a 6. 



I bought a 2019 Chevy LT. She is metallic brown & I absolutely am in love with the color. I didn't get leather seats this round but they are heated. I did end up with 6 seats. I have already done a couple of "upgrades" and I'm going to be doing a couple more things to her here soon but nothing really major. The room in this truck is amazing!


So in closing this past month.. exactly has been insane. I don't wish this experience on anyone !! BUT if you ever go through this please make sure to have a tow truck meet you when you pick up your stolen vehicle. Also make sure that you chose a collision center that works for YOU not your ins co. We were blessed that this didn't end up worse or prolonged. I am sad of the Honda's fate.. she deserved better. It's really sad how someone can just ruin someone else's property. I am a starting to feel less vulnerable though. I do check out my windows more then I did before, we did upgrade the locks and back doors on the house. We did upgrade to a keyless entry a while back and stared locking our doors. I, also, will never leave my keys in a vehicle again!! ever!! lesson learned.

 

Tuesday, August 13, 2019

laundry & dishes.

Hellloooo!! 


I shared my post 'positive' not that you would feel sorry for me but so that I can share where I'm at to share my growth. I AM growing, I AM a work in progress as long as I am on this Earth. Whatever you are going through right now is growth. It doesn't have to make sense now, it doesn't have to be easy, but when you enter that next chapter of growth.. you'll understand it. I'm not giving up because I feel lonely, I'm going to keep pushing through because there is a reason. 



I am not going to tell life is all roses and htat if you are in a bad situation you should stick it out 'because it gets better". That's a lie. I'm not being abused, I'm not drowning in debit, I'm not a an alcoholic or a drug addict. <- those are bad situations.. I'm just lonely. 
I found this facebook group called "Mother like a boss" and it has really helped me use my time correctly to accomplish my goals without being a human Ostrich. 

So lets talk laundry. 
I struggle with staying focused. 
I struggle with creating a rhythm in my daily routines. 
I struggle with having a 'squirrel' moment and losing my day.
 One of the biggest things I see on FB groups in the constant complaint of laundry. 
You too?  It is funny. It is true. 
Dishes and laundry... they are the chores that never end.
So I decided was to tackle these chores & make them my bitch. 


 I got baskets for each of us, the towels & the sheets.   
 I started doing the load from the previous day the NEXT day. 
So whatever the kids, the husband & I wore on Monday gets washed Tuesday Morning. 
I start the load at 6am and it's folded AND put away while the kids eat breakfast around 8 am.
 Then I start with sheets or whatever my 'extra' is and I'm done around 10am.
 FOR THE DAY!
We have a green basket that is our catch all. 
When it comes off - it goes in that basket or the empty washer.
 I also wash my towels separately from my clothing.
This works for me


Dishes?? 
I empty my dishwasher every morning while I wait for the coffee to make. Then as the day goes.. I rinse off the dishes and put them in the dishwasher. Then when dinner is over we just start the ONE & ONLY load of dishes for the day. Five of us & one load. 
BUT I pre-make my meals (next post) so I don't have pots & pans to wash in the evening.

It has been a journey figuring out what works for me and this works!   
My table stays clear of stacked clothing & my sink stays clear of cluttered dishes. 
AND it makes me feel so accomplished.

I hope this helps someone else come up with way to lighten your own loads. (haha)
Have a great day!! 





Wednesday, August 7, 2019

positive...



Helllllllooooooo!! 

I am in a real bad way needing a change. Like a full all over change. Like gutt it all and start over. As we all know 'change' is hard. You can change it all but if the surroundings don't change.. then reverting is very possible. 


While I will say that I love my children. Outside of that I feel very alone. Extremely alone. My two friends moved away, it's hard to start new friendships. My husband works hard and provides for us but has a better relationship with his phone then me. On that same note .. I don't do anything to really talk about so......... I'm alone. Alone w my thoughts, feelings, insecurities. Alone with my accomplishments, alone with my goals...
I go to the store alone, nail shop alone, Target alone, grocery shopping alone. the zoo with my kids alone. 


As we go through the reno we are throwing something things l realized that I have grown & changed so much in the past 9 years. I think i feel sad because I have feeel like I have changed alone. That is sad. BUT I am tired of being alone. I'm tired of being sad. I have this amazing life but I'm alone. I'm struggling.. gosh have I been struggling. Struggling to feel important past my kids, struggling to find my worth, struggling to be needed and wanted and have someone, ANYONE, who wants to be around me. A person to share my life, a life that I feel is very insignificant.
 (( Let me stop and say that I'm NOT suicidal)) 


SO lets start from the top.
I have decided to change some things up. I've decided to get up earlier then usual. I've decided to start a version of the KETO diet. I've decided to MAKE myself leave the house at least once a week. 
I am the queen of online ordering.. groceries, clothing.. I'm such a fan of online grocery orders.
I've decided to put more of myself first. I get up earlier - get my coffee & a shower. I feel energetic & I feel that I can't MAKE myself have friends but I can make myself better - stronger. Maybe I need this time to really get to know myself better, stronger and that's the route I'm gonna take. 

Guys.. I'm trying. Somethings gotta change & I'm trying 

















Thursday, July 25, 2019

almost done!




guys!!!!
We have floors!! 
We have all the rooms except the master completed!! 
We gotta lay the master closet and bedroom. 
After that it's replace the baseboards throughout the whole house 


Our kitchen counters arrive next week... waaaahooooo
 I can't explain how insane it is to have to go to the BATHROOM to get the dog water. 
Our bathroom has been our kitchen catcher. 
I do dishes in there, I rinse out bottles, fill water jugs (for the dogs).. 
the only thing we aren't using the bathroom for is... well bathroom stuff.
Since we have 3.. one is ONLY being used for the kitchen overflow. 


I think the floors are gorgeous!
 I of course already miss my crazy rugs and have put one in the boys room (above) and the playroom. I actually REALLY miss my kitchen rug and I might replace that one as well. It was a great crumb catcher & I love the extra design element.


That's all I got folk's. We are chugging through the mess and trying to make time to create summer memories. We did find time to hit the beach this weekend. With three very independent kids & two adults - it wasn't relaxing but the kids had a GREAT time! Next week we will tackle the zoo (weather pending) & possibly a splash pad day. 



Amy



Wednesday, July 10, 2019

full remodel


One day I decided that we needed new floors. The carpets were just grrrroooossss. I literally have it in my cleaning schedule to shampoo carpets on Thursday's. I got tired of the brush off so I got the ball rolling and mad did it roll..


We ripped out all of the carpets in our 4 bedrooms house, the living room & the kitchen tile floor!! Ourselves. We decided to do the demo and install ourselves and save that money; which went back into the house. Other then a couple people helping - my husband has done it on his own. 



We realized that the kitchen cabinets were sitting on flooring .. so we removed the counters, the cabinets and placed the cabinets back. We currently do NOT have a counter top, sink or really a functioning kitchen. It has been glorious chaos. 
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We currently have 70% of the house refloored.. the living room got re-painted too 




the inspector signed off on our counter today & it will be installed in TWO weeks - along w the new sink and faucet. We also are adding a new backsplash. I am so delirious with excitement! I got everything that I wanted and I'm so anxious to get it all up and in place. 




We decided at the last moment to not replace the bathroom flooring, which was the same as the kitchen tile, until we do the bathroom reno's.

Everyone has done really good! The kids have really adapted and love the chaos. They have no issues with toys everywhere. They have no issues eating out 4 nights out of 7. They have had no problem with reorganizing or rearranging their rooms. These little kiddo's are troopers!!

I will NOT miss doing dishes out of the bathtub ANY time soon. I had to close off the front bathroom b/c eww gross. So only dishes are allowed. The dishwasher is up and running as well - so that has helped keep things sanitized.


So that's what's been going on since I wrote last. We've got things everywhere and anywhere. My house is going to be fabulous once we are done. I know my husband didn't love spending all that money but I sure do appreciate it! I'm sure he'll also be happy when all of this is over so he can relax and rest when he gets home. 

Amy      



















Thursday, May 30, 2019

Empire

Last year I read Rachel Hollis' amazing book "Girl, wash your face". Upon the finale chapters I realized that I didn't have a goal. I didn't have a empire to grow & nature. I got really down on myself & thought of career's past being a Mom. I sought out schools and degree's to obtain before my husband hits retirement so I could take 'my chance'. I did find a career, by all accounts, that really sings to me. Unfortunately it's 'unobtainable' right now and that set me in a tail spin. I felt useless and hopeless. I felt like I had missed my chance prebaby to find my career and give it the attention it needed. To add to that the more people I told about my goal tore me down. Reminded me how busy I was and that my goal was unobtainable for various reasons and I believed them.  I allowed those words to seep into my soul and took them for the real. I soaked the words up like a sponge, because after all, they are my support team.

A couple of months later I sought out personal therapy & marriage therapy because I felt my life was spiraling out of control with no meaning. I didn't (and don't) feel like I have a support system to obtain my goals. Big or small, here or later. That hit me even harder in my slump. I lost my mission because I felt like I was a failure. I started thinking that I couldn't bring anything into a relationship, I had nothing to offer. If we were to go out to dinner the only conversation I had to contribute to was cleaning & kids. I saw myself just making these elaborate circles through my day but not accomplishing anything. That needed to change. 

One day while shampooing carpets it hit me. Like a ton of bricks. My house & kids were my empire. Everything I applied, daily, was to create and maintain the empire I had created. My goal for years was to have a family & here I was saying my life had no meaning because I didn't have more. That my friends is ludicrous.  So I found new facebook groups tailored to scheduling, meal plans, cleaning, and I found a bomb parenting group. I realized that I have wasn't going to have a picture perfect house & by learning tricks & tips I could be more efficient.

So I decided to revamp it all. I listened to my personal therapist tell me that my new goals and admission was unrealistic and unobtainable so I fired him. I absolutely feel like our marriage therapist is a god send and made me see that I'm a really shitty wife. Most importantly I need to see that what I am doing right now is important. Every mindless, endless, and tiring chore is for a reason & means something. So here I am to say that dreams and goals matter. That you need to push through and figure out where you need to be at this moment. Having future goals is great and obtaining smaller ones is great too. Self validation is important and knowing people have your back is too. Creating simple ways to help you achieve those smaller goals is ok.

I hope you follow me through growth. Maybe you can teach me something that has worked for you. Nothing is unobtainable - to be a Dr you need years or school and medical rounds. Like that .. it may mean you have to master smaller goals before you achieve your overall goal.


Hope you follow along.




Amy