Monday, October 28, 2013

To move or not to move..

Good Morning Lovelies;
Hope everyone had a awesome weekend!!
These past couple of weekends the husband & I have been watching HGTV. This TV station helps us with some home improvement ideas or suggestions we would have never thought of. The past two weekends after watching "Love it or List it" my husband has been talking about moving. We just moved in our home Nov 2011.. so the thought of moving already isn't very settling to me. There are things that I would love to have that we don't {like a pantry} but overall I LOVE MY HOUSE. We could move 45 min further away from San Diego & buy a great house where we get more for our money. It would result in a longer drive for Mr P to work & back.. but again we would get a brand new house with a lot of top of the line appliances. We started our conversation with buying a house in three years there & then WHAM! we started a whole different debate.
Mr P stated that if we stayed in this house & paid more to the mortgage we could have it paid off by the time he retires {in 10 yrs}. So that started a topic on if we would remain in this house or if we would move. He said that he wanted to move back to Texas after he was done in the military.. my heart dropped. Yes, I'm proud I'm from Texas but I don't want to move back! There is a long list of reasons and a short list of things that I miss. Like Pine Trees, Squirrels, Thunder/Lightening storms and the people. He wants to move back to his home town and settle down close to his family. While I respect that I never saw us leaving California.
My family also lives in Texas & I have friends that still live there. San Diego isn't the best place or easiest to make friends. That much I miss from the Southern states. We talked about moving to Oklahoma to be between our families.. mine in Arkansas and ours in Texas. I never EVER thought I would be considering moving back to Oklahoma! The fact is Oklahoma gets snow & more seasonal changes and Texas doesn't offer a lot unless you move up past Dallas, which is 3 hours away from Oklahoma.
The point of this post is that I never thought about the 'after military' decisions. I never even considered moving from here. Now that the thought is in my head.. it's a constant debate. I hate the hot weather Texas & Oklahoma offers. Leaving 70* temps ~ along with the ocean & mountain views is insane to me. Ten years from now we will be established in our home & community. Our friends will come & go which is a reason I'm considering moving back to the Southern States. The military community isn't as open armed as one may think & making friends isn't easy. By the time you make a good set of friends they move away. I, personally, could see the benefit of moving back to Texas. The huge plus is that if we sell our house here it would buy us a HUGE house in Texas with all the luxuries we could want ~ I just want a pool.

To my military wife bloggers. How do you handle these conversations? How you put your thoughts in this? Ten years is a long time away but we all know our soldiers plan!

5 comments:

  1. My husband and I talk about this often. He retires in 13 years and we both want to move back to the Midwest. We are both from Minnesota but we agreed that we would probably want to live in a surrounding state like North or South Dakota or Missouri. That way we will be close enough to family to visit for holidays, weekends, etc but not close enough where they can come over anytime they want! We love everything about the midwest. It has a lot of things San Diego doesn't have. We miss things being affordable, seasons, privacy, and all the joys of simple living.

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    1. There are a couple of thing that San Diego has that I'd love to live by forever. I love the weather & being so close to the Ocean. I just never saw myself going back to Texas. I'm glad you both have agreed on a plan. I guess that's what B & I need to do. You two like the colder states.. :D Thank you MIranda! <3, Amy

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  2. We didn't even consider buying a home until my dh had been in the military 18 years. At that point we were getting stationed somewhere we knew we could live forever. We knew we would be stationed here at least 2 years and at that point if he got orders he could retire. We are both from CA and would actually never consider living there even though that's where our families live. We want to be able to afford to live comfortably after retirement and in CA, that would not be happening. We live just a few states away and love where we live. My dh has been in 21 now and will most likely stay in a few more, but again, if he gets orders, he will retire. We are close enough to "home" (1/2 day drive or less than 2 hours by airplane) but we are also far enough away. LOL

    Jen

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    1. I'm so glad that we did buy. I'm much happier then if we would have got base housing. I know CA is expensive & it would be so much easier to move back to Texas. It all makes sense... I just didn't want to go back I guess. Congrats to your hubbys 18 years of service, that is amazing!! Thank you Jen for your comment! <3, Amy

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  3. We argue, I mean "discuss" this all the time. We bought the house we're in now two years ago and now I want to move back across the country next fall. We'll see!

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