It's the single most terrifying and thrilling word in a Military home.
It could mean a couple more years with friends you've made in a place you are semi familiar with or it could mean that you & your family will be starting over................ again.
My husband picks new orders next month. He keeps checking for open billets and so far there is nothing in San Diego for his rate open. I'm terrified. I know that since we bought a house the chances of us leaving are slim which means.. that if he does get out of state or oversea's orders it will be unaccompanied. Meaning.. alone. He will go to a new place by himself without me and leave me here to keep up the house he bought in his absence.
Sounds cold doesn't it? I mean what wife wants to be left behind? Certainly none that I know. Maybe because I'm taking it so damn personal or maybe because a house in an object that can be left behind. Maybe I know my husband enough to know that he has been talking about orders to Japan for a while now.. so if he got unaccompanied orders there I wouldn't be surprised at all. I'm actually expected in.. anything else would shock me.. honestly.
As a Military Spouse you want to encourage your spouse. You want them to excel. Excelling means better housing, better pay and more time home. Of course those are the unwritten codes.. along with keep quiet and neat. Don't cause a fuss in FRG meetings. Try to make friends with wives from the command. Oh and the biggest two, in my opinion, understand what your husband does & be able to explain or ask questions. Always be presentable not slutty but not too over done.
If it sounds like I'm not in love with my title, you are wrong. I'm angry at the man who gave me that title because he is telling me that he will pick orders far, far away and I can't seem to not take that personally. Sure I can run this house, I can maintain the yard, I can carry on with my life in his absence for the next two years. (assuming he'll get Japan orders) Does it mean I'm happy about it? Hell no. We promise to love the man not he uniform.. but sometimes they are one in the same. Sometimes our soldiers don't leave work at the curb. Sometimes it's hard for them to 'transition' back into home life. And sometimes before a change our soldier shuts us out and we feel alone before they even pack a bag or leave.
People want to sugar coat this lifestyle. They wanna tell you that we got awesome benefits, and other families have picnics on the weekend and all the kids play together. They wanna advertise a strong united couple who are ready to face anything that may come between them. In a weird way it's not a lie but it's not the truth. They don't tell you that during his career you will be alone most of the time, that friends are hard to make, that you make the best friends apx 6 months before you, or they, PCS. Oh the chances of you finding a job as a spouse are also slim.
Again I wouldn't trade it for a moment because I'm married to the most amazing man. I love that he serves his country and I love that I get to be in the position to help him. There are just times when I feel like we aren't given all the information on what to expect as a Military Spouse. I'm also very angry right now but I promise that I love being a military spouse it's just really hard at times.
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