Thursday, August 7, 2014

Work for your goal.

My husband was up for an advancement. If you know the military world then you know all the hoops for someone making Chief or E-7 in the Navy. In this post I'll compare the Chief process and compare it to infertility. Why? Because it's compareable. We all have goals and work towards them. SO here we go. 

1. Military: You do a complete workup. You take a test and you wait for the results. You hope and pray that everything you've done for the past 9 months will pay off.
Fertility: You do blood work and exams. You take birth control pills and prenatal vitamins. You hope and pray that everything you've done in the past 3 months will pay off. 

2. Military: You wait for results. You question everything. You look over all your past evals. You ask people who have advanced questions. 
Fertility: You wait two weeks for results. You pray and question everything you have done for the past two - three weeks. You ask people who have achieved a pregnancy questions and google everything. 

3. Military: You find out you didn't advance. You are so upset. You thought you had it in the bag. You go back and question everything you have worked for and try to figure out what happened. You start preparing for the next test. You tear yourself apart. Join more events, go back to school and hit the gym. You plan your goals, wipe off your tears and move forward - praying the next time will be the one. 
Fertility: You have pee'd on the stick and it's negative. You didn't advance into Motherhood. You are so upset. You thought you had done everything right - acupuncture, no alcohol, no tobacco. No one can tell you why your body didn't create a little cocoon for your future baby. You cry, scream and block all your pregnant friends from your facebook feed (for a couple of days). You start back at square one and try to figure out how to make yourself better. Maybe no coffee next time. Maybe I haven't lost enough weight. So you plan your goals, wipe off your tears and move forward - praying the next time will be the one

Both are so different and yet they are both the same. Timelines and such may be different but essentially it's all the same. You put all your sweat, prayers and tears in to achieving the overall goal. It's painful and heartbreaking when you don't meet your goal. As sad as I am that my husband didn't advance - I know he will achieve his goal just like I know we will achieve our pregnancy goal. It's not just my goal or his goal.. it's our goals. So we just take a moment and grieve the lost and move forward with more determination. 

The point is - no matter what your goal is you work towards achieving it. You keep moving forward and hopefully you don't get discouraged and you reach your goal. Keep going - whatever your goal is... it's worth it. 

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