Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Write or Die Wednesday: Empty Space

Joining this lovely writing prompt link up "Write or Die Wednesday's" hosted by:
Vashelle from Shelly's Cabaret

Write or Die Wednesdays

Every other week we get a writing prompt to create a story or a memory to share. The prompt that was picked for this bi-weekly link up is:

I have debated on this topic for over a week. Originally I thought about the importance of taking time to date yourself. We always claim to be so busy running around that we never take a moment for just ourselves. I'm guilty of it for sure.. I find that I'll stop and watch TV, sit through a drive thru or scan through facebook. When I say take yourself for a date I mean go for a pedicure with just your ipod, taking yourself to your favorite restaurant and sitting in & eating or going to the beach with just a book for the day. I know that with kids these things aren't always that easy but taking time for yourself is important.

Then over the weekend I lost my favorite dog - Grizzly. Through the past couple of days I feel like I'm just walking through a routine with no feeling at all. Everything is numb and unfamiliar. I'm used to having a little shadow following me around, that little smiling face making me smile as well. I just feel empty and lost. My whole day from start to finish is so foreign & just full of empty space. I feel like I spent so much time wasted on watching TV or searching through pinterest that I could have spent with him. I ended up writing a post about Grizzly Monday afternoon so I decided to go a different route.

Social Media has overtaken our quality time with other people & ourselves. Every sit down at a restaurant and look around?? If two people are at a table then at least one of them is on their phone. While getting a pedicure people are on pinterest, instagram &/or facebook. We have allowed social media & the instant connection to take over our lives. A couple of weeks ago I went to IHOP with my hubby & at one point we were both on our phones instead of spending time with each other.  I have also become aware that it's hard to stay off of instagram or facebook for more then a hour at a time. I feel like we are so interested in 180 peoples thoughts that we aren't getting to know the people who we claim are so important.

We don't spend enough one on one time with ourselves anymore, we are missing our on the important moments by being sucked into social media & for me walking through unfamiliar days since my little dog passed away. Overall I feel as our years go by we become less attached to human connections and rely mostly on electronic connections. Our electronic connections lead us to more empty space then what we had ten - twenty years ago. Hopefully as we look for ways to simplify our lives we consider spending more one on one time with our loved ones & with ourselves.


  1. Amy, I'm so sorry for the loss of Grizzly. Big hugs to you.

    You are so right about the electronic nature of our connections these days. I am so guilty of this myself. I feel like my phone and laptop are surgically attached to me sometimes. :/ It's definitely something I need to work on!

    Thanks so much for linking up! xo

    1. Mia,
      I can't express how I fear that social media has weakened us. Kids don't play outside anymore, people don't socialize anymore.. i mean seriously we 'catch up' with people via text messaging instead of calling & we even have digital books now. It's bothers me.
      Thank you - Grizzly is so very missed and was so very loved. Every morning I wake up and expect him to be on my pillow like he was for 13 years.. I miss him dearly.

      Love the linkup! can't wait for the next one!

      <3, Amy

  2. I'm so sorry about the loss of your favorite dog :( Pets are family, and we mourn them all the same. ((((hugs))))

    I totally feel you about the social media thing. I write about it often.

    My soul aches so hard about the lack of REAL connection occurring between everyone of all relationships (familial, platonic, romantic). And as much as it gives me a feeling of aversion, I still am guilty as charged. It's an addiction, and it sucks, and I have yet to find a way out of it.

    I got a smartphone relatively late in the game because I was scared of becoming a "zombie." Then I became the only one sitting there twiddling my thumbs because everyone else had a smartphone and couldn't keep their eyes off of it. So I gave in. I have *seriously* considered going back to a flip phone, but now I just can't imagine how I'd get around without Google Maps haha. Ugh.

    I just pray that we all get fed up with it and let the pendulum sway.

    1. I got hooked into social media when I was REALLY into the blog stuff. Twitter, facebook, pinterest and instagram. Now I am starting to see the obsession with people & the phones.
      I really started to notice with people with kids because the kids are glued to movies through ipads & nooks. My friends seven year old asked for his own nook for his brithday. Not a toy but an nook so he could watch scooby do movies.
      I wondered what had happened to kids playing outside and sports - granted our society has really changed & it's not so safe for kids to play in the streets like it was when we grew up. I just want to be a better example for my kids.
      We are like a bunch of zombie's attached to our social media updates and notifications. It's really sad. I'm also really puzzled on why other people have stood and said - enough! I'm just as addicted to my iphone as the next person but all the REAL contact with people is gone. I don't call and talk to people on the phone anymore - do you? I text my brother's and sisters.. I send birthday wishes through a facebook post.. I'm just as guilty. I guess i was hoping to start spreading the awareness that this is getting out of hand.
      I agree though - I'm considering kicking the iphone for a flip phone too. I'm also addicted to Google maps through the phone too but they have apps for your car now that you can purchase for that.. I don't know the answer but we've gotten way to addicted to social media outlets.

      My baby was part of our family. It's so crazy how different our house is without him around. It's crazy how different I am without him around anymore. I know that in a couple of weeks in our first child is born that void wont be as noticeable but right now it's deafening.

      <3, Amy