Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Juggling.

Everyone is currently asleep and I needed a few moments to check in with you all. As it happens, tomorrow's topic for the writing promp helps catch you all up on our currently life. So here is the question:  What are things that you enjoy the most about your work right now?

I love being a Mom. I think it's the most rewarding position I've ever had. I love watching my babies. The funny thing about being a Mom is that you never feel like you are doing enough. The coolest part is that so far Little Dude and Little girl are on the same feeding schedule. Sounds hectic but really it's been a blessing. Little Dude doesn't really take bottles anymore but his nap schedule requires some milk. Since he is still on two a day naps.. well lets just say that it's what's keeping me sane. Little Miss has decided that her most active time of the day is during dinner time; so it gets a little hectic. I've managed to plan out dinners and start them a little early so that I can manage.
BUT as life would have it as soon as it seems I've got a handle on the juggle a couple of extra balls get thrown in. Little Man is starting ABA soon for the summer. We have assessments coming up and the first week in June we have his first school IFSP. I'm excited about the ABA, applied behavior analysis, to enter our lives for the summer. The ABA is meant to help us with the fundamentals of helping Little Man learn to make it through the next school year.
I love being a Mom. I haven't figured out all the life juggles yet. I haven't figured out how to keep a spotless house while managing every 3 hour feedings, plus fixing breakfast, lunch and dinner. I haven't figured out how to put away a basket of clothes in the same day it's washed and folded. I'm sure in the next couple of weeks i'll find my rythm. I'll find that sweet spot to guide me through the summer and then crash in the chaos of the next school year.
Meanwhile we have a lot of things happening ... little man's 3rd birthday is coming up, plus 4th of July, and the husband will be gone for six weeks. Then after his return we load up and drive to Texas for a couple of weeks. His Dad passed away last year and we are spreading his ashes, along with all the siblings, like his Dad wanted. I have a lot on my plate all leading up to August and I'm stressed but excited. I've also decided to add PIYO to my daily routine as soon as I'm cleared at my 6 Post Partum checkup - which will be during morning nap time.
There is so much about this life of being a stay at home that is simply demanding but I've never felt more centered in my life. I've dreamed of these days my whole adult life and honestly it's pretty amazing. I get frantic and overwhelmed from time to time but at the end of the day I love being a Mom to these three little kiddo's.

What are things that YOU enjoy most about your work right now??

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Writing prompt

 I found these writing prompts on pinterest and saved the individual months for the year. Since I have them all I thought I'd try using one of them.
May 09 is: What subjects did you study at school?

Well after High School I went to a junior college because my Mom was certain I wasn't smart enough for a university. Well that and she said that I couldn't do it and that it was too expensive to fail at. I did get my basics out of the way to transfer to a big university but I never pin pointed a major and therefore never went.  I wanted to be a Texas A&M alum but again never made it.

Ooh, if I could turn back time... I'd be a psychiatrist like I wanted when I was in High School. Again my Mom told me it was too much school and a lot of Math; Math wasn't my strong suit; so I should pick something easy like cleaning houses. I guess that's kinda what I did... being a housewife... haha. I did look in to psychiatric school a couple years back but I got pregnant with little man and put it on the back burner.

I later went to a trade school to be a insurance agent. Now I'm thinking about going to cosmetology school. I'd like a job with flexible hours for the kiddo's and I'd like to work after the husband retires in 6 yrs. Hell I'll be 42 by then.. so who knows if I'll accomplish any of my educational goals. The plan is to get my hair license at the very least .. so if i can do it before I become all geriatric.

This is a bitter topic b/c I did have plans for my life. I did want to accomplish things and have a career. I feel like I let me Mom get in my head and de-rail me into missing out. I've worked a ton of retail positions but never one that really required school and I never completed anything. I SHOULD have gotten my cosmetology license years ago.. I would have been a great at it. Now all I can do I picture me being the old Grandma at a young school and it makes me sad.

Hopefully I'll help build the path my children take. Hopefully I encourage them to reach any & every little goal they think of. Hopefully I can encourage them to accomplish life instead of being 36 and realizing there is more life that they missed out on. Hopefully I encourage them to join a trade school or a university and reach all the stars in the sky.


Monday, May 7, 2018

the hardest part of being a Mom

When I was in my 20's we went to this country bar. We all drank a little too much and drove home. One of the passengers in our vehicle was a Mom and she pleaded with us to pull over. Her stance was because she was a Mom her life meant something and it came off that she thought she was better then us. We made fun of her for the longest time using that line because nobody understood what she was saying because we weren't parents. Now fast forward 14 - 15 years and I'm a Mother of 3. NOW I completely understand what she was saying and she was right. Her life was 10 times more important then ours, it was more important then a couple of stupid 20 yr old driving drunk and with the possibility of it ending her life. And she was a single parent so her life wasn't 10 more important it was a billion. I haven't thought of that day for a long time but being a parent takes away that immortal armor we carry as youngsters. I never thought about mortality and I certainly didn't fear it. I never understood people who did until my first kid was born. I have never wanted to live more then I did after they placed that new baby in my arms. I have never been suicidal but I've never feared death until I did. It's pretty amazing how new life makes you wanna live but I'm also not naive to the fact that we wont live forever.
I started to believe that my fear of dying wasn't so much of the fact that I had kids as it was that I have a child with a disability that needs me. He needs me more then my other two kids will. He will need a place to live and a place to comfort him when the world is too much. I don't want my other two kids to think of their older brother as a 'burden' b/c we die early and they have to help him through life.. that's my job. I am doing everything I can to help him through life and will continue to do so/ but I can't shake that fear of not being here. Now, that doesn't mean that I love little man more - it's just stating that he may need some extra care as he gets older and I want to be here. I also understand that it's all out of my control too. As I was driving home the other day with Little Miss in my the car I started freaking out over the thought of a drunk driver, or someone running a red light. So it's not just for the fear of my oldest but for all my kiddos.
My husband is about to leave for the month of July and I want a break before he leaves. August is a very busy month for us and the only chance I have to break away is in June. So I have been planning a girls weekend at a local spa/resort to lay out by the pool and have the option of spa services if we desire. We all picked a weekend and I looked up the reservation information.. and it struck me. I can't possibly leave my three kids for two days and a night alone! They need me! My husband wont know what to do or what to say. He'll get short fussed and wont be able to handle it.. so I can't go. I might be able to slip away during nap time but he can't handle them through the night. So I'll go for the day and not spend the night.. yea that's what I'll do.. then I can drive back the next day and spend some time with the girlfriends who stayed... ...     insane!! My husband can lead over 30 people on a moving vessel... he most certainly can handle three calm kiddo's.  yes, I could drive home that evening and help him put the kids to bed and go back the next day ... but that's ludicrous. The hardest part of being a Mom, for me, is really understanding that I'm more then just a Mom. I need down time. I need breaks. I need to vent, to cry, to drink some wine, to soak in the tub 20 min longer, to let Dad get up with the kids on the weekend and sleep in a little. The little things I constantly talk myself out of.. dont' take a nap while all 3 kids are napping you need to mop the floor. No the floors can wait.. take that nap!

Being a Mom is harder then I thought but so amazingly rewarding. I've never understood that saying but now I get it. It's hard because our heads make it harder for us but our hearts are so rewarded on the daily things our kids accomplish. it's a tug of war. a inner tug of war. I get it. So to you all you Mom's out there.. you've got this. You are amazing. Enjoy that starbucks line while you kid is sleeping. Snooze the alarm and take that extra 5 minutes. Get a pedicure on your lunch break instead of making phone calls.. you need to take care of you too.